New York Times bestseller and acclaimed author Jennifer Finney Boylan returns with a remarkable memoir about gender and parenting, including incredible interviews discussing gender, how families are shaped, and the difficulties and wonders of being human. A father for ten years, a mother for eight, and for a time in between, neither, or both ("the parental version of the schnoodle, or the cockapoo"), Jennifer Finney Boylan has seen parenthood from both sides of the gender divide. When her two children were young, Boylan came out as transgender, and as Jenny transitioned from a man to a woman and from a father to a mother, her family faced unique challenges and questions. In this thoughtful, tear-jerking, hilarious memoir, Jenny asks what it means to be a father, or a mother, and to what extent gender shades our experiences as parents. "It is my hope," she writes, "that having a father who became a woman in turn helped my sons become better men." Through both her own story and incredibly insightful interviews with others, including Richard Russo, Edward Albee, Ann Beattie, Augusten Burroughs, Susan Minot, Trey Ellis, Timothy Kreider, and more, Jenny examines relationships with fathers and mothers, people's memories of the children they were and the parents they became, and the many different ways a family can be. Followed by an Afterword by Anna Quindlen that includes Jenny and her wife discussing the challenges they've faced and the love they share, Stuck in the Middle with You is a brilliant meditation on raising - and on being - a child.
Boylan, Jennifer Finney, 1958-
Stuck in the middle with you
a memoir in parenting in three genders
New York :, Crown Publishers,, c2013.
x, 284 p. :,ill. ;,25 cm.
"Featuring conversations with Richard Russo, Trey Ellis, Augusten Burroughs, Edward Albee, Timothy Kreider, Ann Beattie, Susan Minot, and other parents and former children."--T.p.
Daddy. Red card; The plover's egg; I'm awake, I'm awake; Time out I: conversations with fathers & sons Richard Russo, Ralph Savarese, Trey Ellis, Augusten Burroughs
Maddy.That'll teach 'em a lesson; The orphan girl; The gryphon; Time out II: conversations with waifs & angels Edward Albee, Barbara Spiegel, Christine McGinn, Timothy Kreider
Mommy. The jumble; Jupiter, the bringer of jollity; I'll give you something to cry about; In the hall of the mountain king
Time out III: conversations with mothers & daughters Ann Beattie, Veronica Gerhardf, Susan Minot
Afterword: "Same monkeys, different barrel", a conversation with Jennifer and Deirdre Boylan by Anna Quindlen.
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